Can we talk about god parents? Or more specifically, a person that is identified to be responsible for the care of a child should something happen to both parents. This is how I (growing up in what could be considered an agnostic family) understood the role of my own "god parents". (Is there a better word for this? I am at a loss.)
Did you choose a friend, one who shares your own principals and values? Or did you choose a family member? One with whom you might not share as much in common, but with whom you share blood. Knowing that while friendships can sometimes ebb and flow through life, family is a bit more permanent (generally).
What factors did you give the most weight to? Location, financial stability, their own status as single or married or having children? Political or religious views? If close friends were chosen over family, does this cause hurt to family members? Can multiple people be named, with the assumption that whoever is in the best place in their life (should the time come) to care for a child step in as primary caregiver? Should the spouse of a chosen person also be asked?
And finally, how have people, as non-practicing Christians, commemorated the decision? Perhaps some event can take place where it is acknowledged and celebrated, the fact that this adult has a special role in your child's life.
These are just some of the questions going around in our home, and some of our friends' homes. Can we discuss? Would you like to share how you chose? What struggles you might be having with choosing a "god" parent?