For some reason, when you're pregnant, the floodgates of advice open up... most of it unsolicited. Everyone and their mom (literally) seems to know the answers to a healthy pregnancy, surviving birth, and then, being the absolute best parent. You take most of it for a grain of salt and then move on with your life.
What I've found most astounding though, is that no one, not even the baby books, mention one very crucial thing: When you're pregnant, you fight. Not ALL the time (or, maybe all the time, depending on your relationship), but definitely more often. You just get worked up, and you act in ways you don't normally act, and you say things you wish you could take back, and it's all OK and NORMAL. A lot of it is hormones, I'm sure, but it's also mixed in with the fact that every pregnancy is new territory in every relationship. The thing is, you love your partner so much and, together, you're bringing this little person into the the world that you also love so much, and you're kind of stuck not knowing what to expect. And when it comes to the people you love, not knowing what to expect can be really f*cking scary. You want everything to be fine, you want everyone to come out of it safe and healthy, and even though you know it's absolutely impossible, a little part of you wants it all to be perfect. It's easy to see how all this pressure can turn you into a bit of a lunatic. I'm guilty of all of the above and I constantly have to remind myself that it doesn't actually make me the jerk that I know I'm acting like. You take a moment to admit you're probably being a little ridiculous and you make up. You realize that it's just "part of it", and you go on to being super excited again. This doesn't mean you're bad people who aren't nice to each other, and it certainly doesn't mean you won't make great parents. It simply is what it is. And of all the bits of knowledge and advice I've heard in the last 9 or so months, this is what I wish someone, anyone, would have told me.
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