tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1769679620300509803.post2179763400091751186..comments2023-04-07T08:38:53.913-07:00Comments on HankandLucy: jamiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15103047512463828864noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1769679620300509803.post-11290430578036568552012-01-14T19:53:27.882-08:002012-01-14T19:53:27.882-08:00What about moving stuff around the tree so that it...What about moving stuff around the tree so that it's inaccessible? That's what I do with stuff that I don't want to get rid of. <br /><br />We haven't done the "no" stuff, but have done the "hot," "yuck," and whatever else stuff, situation-specific. He picked up "yuck" for the trash which was super cute, like when he runs off with stuff to put it in the "yuck." Sure, he puts his hand on the oven while saying "hot," but if it's super important, I'm there to play guard. He'll get it eventually. <br /><br />It will only be for several more months. We've just experienced in a really short amount of time a focus-shift where what used to be dangerous is often ignored due to just plumb growing up a bit and having a different filter. I mean, we're talking weeks difference here. It's weird.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1769679620300509803.post-76134949078886188032012-01-12T19:32:22.456-08:002012-01-12T19:32:22.456-08:00when i say no, esp loudly, to our 15 month old he ...when i say no, esp loudly, to our 15 month old he either laughs or ignores me. this is how it's been for months. we use "danger" for anything that's really dangerous, try lots of distraction/re-direction, and allow things that make us a bit nervous, but won't cause major harm. in any case, once he explores something for awhile, he usually moves onto something new. <br />after a full-day of melt-downs (my melt-downs, not finn's) when he was climbing on a chair and then climbing on the kichen table, i finally realized all i needed to do to keep him off of the table was to pull the chair out far enough so he couldn't reach the table. problem solved.<br />in any case, i still say no at times, esp if something is a "real" no-no or if i'm tired and overwhelmed and not using my best skills, but saying no just doesn't seem to work well for us at all...h.johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12134546236941708473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1769679620300509803.post-24725295093357227352012-01-11T12:25:29.782-08:002012-01-11T12:25:29.782-08:00One thing that worked for us was "naming"...One thing that worked for us was "naming" the no stuff - sort of like providing a one word or very simple explanation for why she wasn't supposed to touch something. <br /><br />Anytime she'd hurt herself we'd say "ouch. did you get an ouch?" Then when she'd be going for something that could hurt her like the oven, we could firmly say "no, ouch, hot" followed by a good old distract-and-redirect. "Ouch" worked for the dog and house plants too: gentle pat/touch, no ouch.<br /><br />Another example: for crotch-grabbing during diaper changes we went with "no, yucky, poop". She caught on pretty quick to everything we linked like this. The poop thing was also good when we starting spending more times in parks to keep her from investigating the dog crap left by lovely people. <br /><br />Now, at age 2, I'm just trying to figure out how to explain to her simply why she can't live on fruit snacks. Sigh.Sid.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15454696188357679253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1769679620300509803.post-49631899219791692092012-01-11T09:28:53.906-08:002012-01-11T09:28:53.906-08:00I think we read the same article. I was thinking a...I think we read the same article. I was thinking about it as I stared at our oven and our as-yet-uncrawling baby. I'm glad to know its working. <br /><br />So far, the only time I've had to redirect him is also with the cat and we are doing the same thing that Jamie said, I say "be gentle. We pet the kitty." and then show him how. Luckily we have a very understanding cat.<br /><br />Claudia, I don't even want to think about the cat box...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17021593061287815048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1769679620300509803.post-82886795797892022382012-01-11T08:44:36.950-08:002012-01-11T08:44:36.950-08:00yeah there is some weird scientific thing, i think...yeah there is some weird scientific thing, i think, that actually makes no a more abstract and difficult to understand concept then yes. so we always try and use the positive inverse, when it is possible. when he grabs the cat too hard, instead of saying no! we tell/ask him to let go, and to be gentle. however for very dangerous moments, IE the heater i will firmly say NO, that is dangerous, then redirect. also if he bites my nipple. <br /><br />A bunch of tips: http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/discipline-behavior/18-ways-say-no-positivelyjamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15103047512463828864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1769679620300509803.post-58683497965070937602012-01-11T08:13:45.105-08:002012-01-11T08:13:45.105-08:00According to my readings on the subject, saying No...According to my readings on the subject, saying No to a baby that young won't do much because No is "abstract'...this is why often No = big smile on Alice's face (cool, I got more attention). When Alice does something dangerous, we tell her in a non agressive way (regular voice), while doing eye contact, "no, it is dangerous" or "no, it is dirty" (stupid cat box) and remove the object or give her something else to do. Eventually she will understand No properly (there is always a reason attached to the No)...anyway, this is my opinion :)claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02640989046358711652noreply@blogger.com